https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XnmlX-WF7vU
For a little bit of fun to start a deep-for-me post.

Doing a little bit of soul searching and prioritization on life elements.

First thing to hit the road, Facebook. I’ve spent many years on Facebook and finally realized just how badly it was affecting me. As a side effect of the Facebook invasiveness, people have a warped idea of friendship – it’s more an acquaintanceship than anything else, plus people are increasingly lazy regarding how they interact with other people and answer invites.

I’m wired to be a giver and it’s extremely hard for me to ask for help. Generally, my requests for help take the form of inviting someone to go do something. Unfortunately, there’s only so many times someone like me can be blown off, with no response to an invite and/or follow ups on a “hey, let’s get together”, before it starts to take a pretty significant toll.

With the Facebook clean out, it’s also entailed probably losing touch with most of the Facebook “friends.” On the plus side, however, I’m reconnecting with people I used to be quite close to, and I hope the removal of the toxic influence on me will help me become a better friend and also foster the relationships with people who are truly there to be a friend. I look forward to developing these relationships, and look forward to sending and receiving random chatter texts.

My sigoth had a very interesting way of putting it – “Facebook is full of narcissists who want other narcissists to validate them.” The longer I stayed in that realm and joined more “communities,” the more I saw that.

You don’t need anyone’s validation except your own. It is not your responsibility to educate the masses. You can provide opportunities for those who are interested to educate themselves, but sometimes, one needs to know when to walk away, to stop wasting time trying to educate those who are not interested in the education, and also stop wasting the time complaining about how wrong those people are.

Granted, this whole post can be seen as narcissism. Sure, if that’s how you want to take it, but at the same time, writing is therapeutic for me, and getting it out of my brain and on text is beneficial for me. If this helps you, great! If it’s a TL;DR, awesome. Keep on moving, there’s plenty of other content out on the internet for your delectation.

Fly your own flag. Love. Be kind to yourself and others. Don’t waste precious time with useless ventures.

Love,
~C